Thursday, April 25, 2013

Civil Union Ceremonies-Colorado Springs 1 May 2013

Colorado Civil Unions

Join us to celebrate the passage of civil unions in Colorado. Starting May 1, committed couples will be able to legally apply for civil unions licenses for the first time in state history.

Ceremonies: 6:00pm at City Hall (107 N. Nevada Ave.)
Community reception: 7:00pm at the Underground (110 N. Nevada Ave.)

To celebrate this victory in Colorado Springs, we'll be holding civil union ceremonies on the stairs of City Hall, with Rev. Nori Rost of All Souls Unitarian Universalist Church and Rev. Wes Mullins of Pikes Peak Metropolitan Community Church. Afterwards, we'll gather across the street at the Underground for a community reception, some cake, music, and a celebration of civil unions.

All are welcome at both events and encouraged to celebrate this huge victory with their friends, family, loved ones, and the LGBTQA community.

if you are interested in getting a civil union at this event please contact Jessie Pocock at jessiep@one-colorado.org.


Sunday, March 17, 2013

Non-religious wedding ceremony (created for my father's wedding)



Text in bold or parentheses are instructions and will not be read out loud.
Prologue & welcome: (groom, best man & ring bearer ready at the stage, Diane’s son walks her to the stage and stays until he gives her away)
Friends and family,
We welcome you all as we celebrate the love and life, the joining of two hearts as they unite their lives and blend their families.
Love organizes our sometimes unpredictable world, enshrining our human experience.  Love is the basis for peace of family, the greatest give bestowed on us.
Here, Alan and Diane dedicate themselves to the happiness and well-being of each other.  They have promised themselves to each other in their hearts and we are blessed to be witness to this special moment in their lives.
Alan and Diane are not beginners in life; they have each had a lifetime with experiences of pain and pleasure, joy and agony, of discovery and growth.  In marriage, two people turn to each other in search of greater fulfillment than they can achieve alone.  Marriage is a bold step taken together, toward an uncertain future.  Only in giving of ourselves fully, sharing our lives with another, can the mysterious process of growth take place.  These two come together now to declare their love and be united in marriage.
The words we say today have no magic or special powers; the power of wedding vows is merely a reflection of what exists in the hearts and spirits of these two people.  Nothing I can say, and nothing you can say will ensure a happy, satisfying and committed marriage.  Only your love for one another and your commitment can ensure a happy and satisfying marriage.
Family blessing:
What Alan and Diane do here affects the lives of others almost as profoundly as it affects their own lives.  They each have families whose lives will be entwined and with whom they will embark on this new adventure.
May the spirit of light honor and protect this union and bless these families with all that serves their highest good.  
May all that is noble and true guide these families as they move forward together, united by the love of Alan and Diane.
May we always appreciate our family and friends and remember those who are alone and those who have passed on before us.
May these two families come together, and always find strength and courage in their hearts and in each other. 
Let blessings rest especially on the children for whom this is a new chapter in life.  May they soon grow within the love and security of their new relationships and in the embrace of Alan and Diane’s love.
Giving of the bride:
Who gives this woman to be married to this man?
          Diane’s son: “her son and daughter and grandchildren” (I don’t yet know what her son’s response will be)
(Diane’s son can go sit down)
Blessing of the rings:
Please hold the rings forward: (ring bearer stands between bride and groom and holds the ring-pillow up)
These rings are simple, like your plan for your lives and happiness.  They are unbroken, like the ages they represent.  These rings are a symbol of the responsibilities you share in the bond of marriage.  They are a visible reminder that what you have promised, you will do.  May they become a living reminder of the simple, unbroken and valuable love you share.  They are a tangible symbol that you are pledged together and committed to one another for life.  We ask that nothing complicate, break, or devalue that love, that your love remains always as strong as the ring.  We ask that when Diane and Alan look on these symbols of affection, they remember this moment, this company of witnesses, family and friends who are blessing their lives, surrounding them with love, light and happiness.
(bride & groom take their rings and the ring bearer returns to original spot)
All of you who witness these vows, will you do all in your power to support and uphold these two persons in their marriage? If so, please indicate with “We will.”
Vows/ring exchange
Alan and Diane, please face each other and join hands.
Alan, repeat after me:
I, Alan ______, take you, Diane _____, for my lawfully wedded wife.  I promise to love you and care for you for the rest of my life.  As long as God gives me strength, I will do all in my power to make you happy and share all blessings.  I marry you because your spirit makes me whole.
Diane, repeat after me:
I, Diane ________, take you, Alan ___________, for my lawfully wedded husband.  I promise to love you and care for you for the rest of my life.  As long as God gives me strength, I will do all in my power to make you happy and share all blessings.  I marry you because your spirit makes me whole.
(Ring exchange)
Alan, please place on Diane’s finger the ring you give her as a symbol of your devotion to her, and, looking her in the eyes, repeat after me:
Diane, I give you this ring as a symbol of my love.  May it always serve as a symbol of my fidelity and commitment.  I intend the love I have for you now to be only the beginning of the love I will have for you as time passes.  I promise to share my life with you, whatever the future holds.  I will comfort you, confide in you, and journey with you from this day forth.
Diane, please place on Alan’s finger the ring you give him as a symbol of your devotion to him, and, looking in his eyes, repeat after me:
Alan, I give you this ring as a symbol of my love.  May it always serve as a symbol of my fidelity and commitment.  I intend the love I have for you now to be only the beginning of the love I will have for you as time passes.  I promise to share my life with you, whatever the future holds.  I will comfort you, confide in you, and journey with you from this day forth.
Pronouncement:
Alan and Diane, you have found each other in the afternoon of your lives, but you will still teach each other to see new things in this union of your hearts and spirits.  YOU are a miracle to one another.  Nurture the miracle of your love.  May it never fade, but only blossom in the years ahead. 
I declare you husband and wife.  You may seal your marriage with a kiss.
Benedicto: by Edward Abbey
“May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. May your rivers flow without end, meandering through pastoral valleys tinkling with bells, past temples and castles and poets' towers into a dark primeval forest where tigers belch and monkeys howl, through miasmal and mysterious swamps and down into a desert of red rock, blue mesas, domes and pinnacles and grottos of endless stone, and down again into a deep vast ancient unknown chasm where bars of sunlight blaze on profiled cliffs, where deer walk across the white sand beaches, where storms come and go as lightning clangs upon the high crags, where something strange and more beautiful and more full of wonder than your deepest dreams waits for you – beyond that next turning of the canyon walls.”
Family and friends, I am honored and humbled to present Mr. and Mrs. Alan and Diane ________. 

~thank you to those sources I used to to create this ceremony:

-quote from Edward Abbey (author)

Books:
-The Wedding Professional, Universal Ministries, Milford, IL.
-A Humanist Wedding Service, Corliss Lamont
-Baker's Wedding Handbook, Resources for Pastors, Paul Engle (Editor) 
-A Contemporary Handbook for Weddings & Funerals and other occasions, Aubrey Malphurs & Keith Willhite (editors) 
-Wedding Sermons and Marriage Ceremonies, Derl Keefer and Cheryl Rohret 
website: 
http://beautifulweddings4u.com/ceremonies.html#BLENDING_OF_FAMILIES

Thursday, June 7, 2012

Sample Non-Denominational Wedding Ceremony


Sample Wedding Ceremony
Let us begin...
Convocation
(example for outdoor wedding)
With the horizon our only walls, the sky our only ceiling, and the earth our floor we meet here in nature to affirm our love.
(example for indoor wedding)
May the promises you make to one another be lived out to the end of your lives in an atmosphere of profoundest joy.
Invocation
_____ and _____ welcome you, their family and friends. Each of you has given something of yourself into their lives. It is fitting then that you share in this celebration of their commitment to each other and to their lives joined in marriage.
Readings
_____ and _____ parents and members of the wedding party will now say a few words.
Optional)
Groom's Parents Speak
Brides's Parents Speak
Grandparents, Siblings, etc.

Expression of Intent
Do you _____, choose to marry _____? To speak the words that will join you with her as your wife for the rest of the days of your life?
Answer: I do.
Do you _____, choose to marry _____? To speak the words that will join you with him as your husband for the rest of the days of your life?
Answer: I do.
 
Consecration
PEACE I ASK OF THEE, O RIVER
Peace I ask of Thee, O River,
Peace, Peace, Peace.
When I learn to live serenely
Cares will cease.

From the hills I gather courage,
Visions of the day to be.
Strength to lead and strength to follow
All are give unto me.

Peace I ask of Thee, O River,
Peace, Peace, Peace.

Vows
_____ take _____ 's right hand and repeat after me.
_____, I choose you to be my wife.
I promise freely from this day forward
To be worthy of your trust and deserving of your confidence;
To be generous with my time, my energy and my love;
To be patient with you and with myself,
To return love, tolerance, and generosity to your family.
To trust you;
To be devoted to you and our life together.
These things I pledge before you, myself, our friends, and our family.

_____ take _____ 's right hand and repeat after me.
_____, I choose you to be my husband.
I promise freely from this day forward
To be worthy of your trust and deserving of your confidence;
To be generous with my time, my energy and my love;
To be patient with you and with myself,
To return love, tolerance, and generosity to your family.
To trust you;
To be devoted to you and our life together.
These things I pledge before you, myself, our friends, and our family.


Ring Vows
What pledge do you offer in symbol of these vows?
Answer: "These rings"

Minister takes the rings and gives them to _____ and _____, then minister places hand over the rings, the hands of _____ and _____, and gives a blessing:
"May these rings remind us well of our vows to each other."
_____, I give you this ring to wear upon your hand as a symbol of our unity, love, respect and trust.
_____, I give you this ring to wear upon your hand as a symbol of our unity, love, respect and trust.

Pronouncement
_____ and _____, you have exchanged vows and rings, and consented to marry in the presence of your family and friends. By the power vested in me by the State of Texas, I pronounce you husband and wife.
"Let all others honor their decision and the threshold of their home."

The Kiss
You may now kiss the bride.
I now present _____ and _____.



http://www.nondenominationalweddings.com/sampleweddingceremony.html

Sample Invocations from toastmasters


Emily Dickenson once said, "I dwell in Possibility." By joining Toastmasters and coming here each Tuesday night we are choosing to dwell in Possibility. As we gather around these tables may we acknowledge the courage that it has taken each one of us to take this step towards realizing all of the potential that life has for us. Let us continue to dwell in our possibility with enthusiastic and passionate resolve.
Albert Einstein said “Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.” May we learn from yesterday's mistakes and challenges. Tonight may we live in the moment, taking joy in our meeting. And may we increase in hope for our speeches of tomorrow through the helpful support and learning that we receive tonight.
Dale Carnegie said, "There are always three speeches, for every one you actually gave. The one you practiced, the one you gave, and the one you wish you gave." We've come to Toastmasters tonight to grow our skills so that our given speech grows ever closer to our wished for speech.
On this very frigid evening, may we warm our hearts and minds with the company of our fellow Toastmasters. Let us put our best foot forward so that we may encourage and help our new Toastmasters become better communicators and leaders. As always let us learn from each other as each of us brings something unique to the Toastmasters' table.
The Bible says: "The stroke of the whip maketh marks in the flesh: but the stroke of the tongue breaketh the bones. Many have fallen by the edge of the sword: but not so many as have fallen by the tongue." Tonight, may we lift up instead of striking down. May we heal, instead of break. May we learn by being supportive to one another in the best tradition of Toastmasters.
The strength of Toastmasters is its members. It isn't in strength in numbers, but strength in our actions. In this meeting tonight, may each one here give and receive supportive coaching so that we continue to develop and grow our leadership and communication skills.
Hansell B. Duckett said, "What this country needs is more free speech worth listening to." Tonight let us learn to think, listen and speak so that our speech will not only be worth listening to, it will move the hearts and minds and souls of those listening.
Let's reflect on the words of Peggy Noonan: "A speech is poetry: cadence, rhythm, imagery, sweep! A speech reminds us that words, like children, have the power to make dance the dullest beanbag of a heart."


http://www.kvtoastmasters.org/info-invocations.php